I provide personalized consulting, strategizing and coaching help to parents of unmotivated, difficult or defiant teens with ADHD. (For purposes of my coaching services, I define “teens” as kids who are ages 12 to 20.)
Does any of this sound like you?
I understand…because not so long ago, I was where you are, as a mom of a son with ADHD. (Click here for more about me).
I know first-hand how badly you want to find something (anything!) that will work in your efforts to help your difficult or defiant teen with ADHD become more motivated to do better at home and at school and become well-prepared for the “real world” of adulthood.
I also know that by now, you’ve tried a lot of things and trial and error probably feels more like error and error. And I know that every time another thing you try doesn’t work, it chips a little more of your hope and confidence away.
I know how frustrating it is to want different results, but not know exactly how to get them!
CLARITY: Sometimes when you’re smack dab in the middle of all the chaos and stress of parenting a teen with ADHD, it’s hard to have perspective and objectivity. And, it’s impossible to “know what you don’t know”! As an expert who has also “been there”, I will provide you with an objective, knowledgeable second set of eyes into your situation–together we’ll uncover and discover the most common/likely causes and explanations for the problems you’ve been having with your teen so you can start to focus your energy and time on the things you need to do that will make the biggest difference to how you feel and in the results you’ll get in terms of your teen’s attitude and behavior.
STRATEGIES: When we work together, I will help you put in place a step by step strategic, collaborative approach to parenting that works! When you follow the step by step approach I recommend –and lean on me for help and support when you need it–you will start seeing better results right away: a happier, more motivated, productive teen and a calmer, more relaxed YOU (and home environment).
SUPPORT: I have heard a lot of people say that parenting is a marathon, not a sprint, which is true! But I like to also think of it as a relay race: one you don’t have to run on your own. When we work together, I offer implementation support. Anytime you hit a ‘bump in the road’ as you’re implementing new strategies, I’m just a call or email away to help you regroup, refocus and get back on the right track.
YOUR WILLINGNESS TO LOOK AT AND CHANGE YOURSELF: Although it’s likely your teen’s attitude and/or behavior that led you this website in the first place, it’s important that you know that when we work together, we will primarily be focusing on YOU: your thoughts, beliefs and parenting approach.
You may be thinking: Why not just focus on changing my teen’s behavior–if my teen acted better, everything would be better!
The answer is this: because we can’t change anyone but ourselves.
Not in our control: What others think; their attitudes and/or how they behave.
In our control: our thoughts (about what others are doing), which then give rise to our emotions which then result in our reactions and our parenting behaviors…which then results in the outcomes we get.
The good news, though is this: What you do and the changes you make have a huge ripple effect—
When YOU change what you’re thinking, feeling and doing, it WILL have a huge impact on what your teen thinks and feels and does in response!
If you’re ready to go from feeling at your wits’ end to feeling hopeful and confident as a parent, I can help!
Here are two options for getting started: a consult call (Option 1 below) or touching base via email (Option 2 below).
The purpose of this free, no-obligation consult call is for us to connect voice-to-voice so you can find out a little more about what coaching with me would entail, and for us both to determine if I’m the right person to help you.
This free consult call is not a coaching call; it’s a getting-to-know-each-other call. During the call, you will get a chance to fill me in on where you are and where you want to be in terms of parenting your teen and I will give you some of my initial thoughts in terms of what I think might be causing your challenges and what kind of help I think you could benefit from.
At the end of the call, we will both have a good idea of whether you’re ready to get some one on one coaching help, whether I’m the right person to help you, and whether we would be a good fit working together–personality-wise and goal-wise and. (And if the answer is yes to all of those, then at the end of the call, I’ll fill you in about ways we can work together moving forward.) Click HERE to find out more about currently available coaching packages.
Here’s how to move forward with your free call:
Since our time together on the call is limited, it’s helpful for me to know a bit about you before we talk. So at the time you schedule your appointment, you will be asked a few pre-consult questions. All you have to do is fill in the form that will pop up when you are scheduling your appointment and I’ll receive and review your answers before we get on the phone together.
At the designated time, I will call you via Skype (or if Skype doesn’t work for you, I will provide you with a phone number you can call) and we’ll talk for up to 30 minutes.
If we mutually decide at the end of the call that I am the best person to help you achieve your parenting goals, we can discuss options for working together one on one, including discussing available coaching packages. If either of us decides for any reason to not move forward with coaching, no problem! I’ll still recommend other resources or information I think would be helpful for you to consider.
All you have to do to schedule your consult call with me is click the “Schedule Appointment” button below or use THIS LINK.
I look forward to “meeting” you and talking with you soon!
This option is for you if you’d rather chat with me via email instead of on a call. The purpose of touching base via email in this way is the same as described above for the consult call: for us to connect so you can find out a little more about what coaching with me would entail before deciding if you want to hire me, and for us both to determine if I’m the right person to help you.
When you send me an email, please fill me in on where you are versus where you want to be in terms of parenting your difficult, defiant or unmotivated teen. Then, I will respond and give you some of my initial thoughts in terms of what I think might be causing your challenges and what kind of help I think you could benefit from.
Send your email to: email@example.com and put “Consult email” in the subject line.
“This program helped me to change the way that I think about my daughter’s behavior. Previously, I knew her behavior had a lot to do with her ADHD; however, I did not know what to do with that information. Joyce taught me that although something might be a problem for me, does not mean it is a problem for my daughter and until it is a problem for her, she is not likely to change her behavior. Talk about a lightbulb moment! Joyce also taught me that even when my daughter is acting in an undesirable way, I don’t have to lose my mind in the process. Thank you, Joyce!”~ H.N., Auburn, Maine
“It has been extremely helpful to me to be able to express my concerns to Joyce and to have her listen and give me sound advice. She has gotten to know me well and help me see my weaknesses and strengths. I feel like Joyce guides me in the right direction and helps me find the strength to parent courageously.” ~W.S., West Jordan, Utah.
“The relationship between my son and me had always been strained when it came to his bad grades. Recently it reached a tipping point and things went from bad to worse….In desperation I reached out and found Joyce. The techniques and “tools” that Joyce shared with me during our conversations allowed me to change my entire perspective on the situation….It will take work and vigilance on my part, but I feel that I am now prepared to take on this challenge….I just wish I had talked to Joyce earlier.” ~J.S., Denver, Colorado.
“Coaching with Joyce was an empowering, eye-opening experience. I knew how to parent, but had lost my way struggling with my ADHD son over the years. I had become a worrying, hovering, controlling Mom. I knew what I was doing wasn’t working, but I didn’t know how to change. Joyce helped me see that all my worrying wasn’t helping, and was actually hurting my son….The fact that Joyce has been in the trenches with her own son validated what she was teaching me. It’s sometimes hard to take advice from someone who hasn’t been where you are. Joyce has, and has real-life experience and knowledge of what it’s like. I’ve seen my son step up and be more independent already in response to my changes in how I interact with him. I look forward to a more peaceful relationship with him as he transitions into adulthood. Thank you Joyce!” ~ G.K., Kansas City, Missouri