A little bit about my background: I have two sons–but my older one (the one on the right-hand side of the picture) is the one who put me through the wringer during his school years. He had (still has) Inattentive ADHD and we spent much of his tween and teen years looking for a lost shoe (or coat or wallet or you name it) and arguing about bad grades. Back then, I remember thinking: “He can’t even remember what he went upstairs for–how in the hell will he ever be able to function as an adult without me reminding, prodding, helping, etc.?!”
By the time my son got to high school, I was at my wits’ end–it seemed like no matter what I tried, he continued to struggle at home and fail in school.
And so did he.
And to make matters worse, this ADHD-related stuff really took a toll on our relationship. (Frankly, our relationship sucked! It got to where neither of us wanted to even be around the other!)
I remember the daily feelings of frustration, guilt, anger, impatience, sadness–It was like I was stuck on an emotional roller coaster ride that I had no idea how to get off of!
Not only did all of this take a toll on our relationship, but it took a toll on ME…My son’s ADHD-driven behavior started to bring out the worst in me.
(And I’m sure others thought I wasn’t the most fun to be around either!)
I was doing the best I knew how to do, and it wasn’t working. I worried so much about him and how he would ever make it on his own in the “real world”.
I felt so sad and helpless. And very hopeless.
Throughout my son’s childhood, my parenting consisted of a lot of trial and error (lots of error!) as I tried to find things that would help him (and me) feel better and do better. As I discuss in more detail in my book, one day, I stumbled across some powerful, effective mindset and parenting strategies–strategies that not only helped me feel better (less stress and chaos and more calm), but they also helped me make much better parenting decisions and helped me dramatically improve my relationship with my son.
Once I started using these new techniques, everything changed for the better: how I felt, how others including my son responded to me, my relationship with my son…everything!
I’m able to help you from a unique perspective–I am not only someone who has a lot of formal education (a Bachelor’s degree in Psychology and a Master’s Degree in Counseling) and many years of work experience as a licensed school counselor and a certified coach and consultant, but I am also someone who has walked in your shoes–as a parent of a teen with ADHD with lots of trial and error under my belt!
Because of my education, work experience and most of all personal experience:
I know what works and what doesn’t work.
And also, I know how hard all this is to figure out on your own.
I know that sometimes you “can’t see the forest for the trees” because you’re too close to it all and what you need is simply a second “set of eyes” to help you see what you might be missing.
And I know how badly you need (and deserve) a sounding board so you don’t feel so alone. (Trust me, you are not alone!)
I know you need some help sorting through all the available tools and techniques out there so you can figure out what the best ways to help your teen.
And I know that you need some help to get you over the inevitable bumps in the road that you hit whenever you try to put new strategies in place.
Last but not least, I know that your deepest heart’s desire is that your teen becomes a happy, responsible, successful adult.
As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words! We made it through those tough times so I know you can too! I’d love to help you get there.
At my son’s college graduation!