I am not just a Parenting Coach and Consultant, but I’m also mom to a son with ADHD.
I actually have two sons–but my older one (the one on the right-hand side of the picture) is the one who put me through the wringer during his school years. He had (still has) Inattentive ADHD and we spent much of his tween and teen years looking for a lost shoe (or coat or wallet or you name it) and arguing about bad grades. Back then, I remember thinking: “He can’t even remember what he went upstairs for–how in the hell will he ever be able to function as an adult without me reminding, prodding, helping, etc.?!”
By the time my son got to high school, I was at my wits’ end–it seemed like no matter what I tried, he continued to struggle at home and fail in school.
The more I tried to “help” my son, the more defiant he became.
And so did he.
And to make matters worse, this ADHD-related stuff really took a toll on our relationship. (Frankly, our relationship sucked! It got to where neither of us wanted to even be around the other!)
I remember the daily feelings of frustration, guilt, anger, impatience, sadness–It was like I was stuck on an emotional roller coaster ride that I had no idea how to get off of!
Not only did all of this take a toll on our relationship, but it took a toll on ME…My son’s ADHD-driven behavior started to bring out the worst in me.
(And I’m sure others thought I wasn’t the most fun to be around either!)
I was doing the best I knew how to do, and it wasn’t working. I worried so much about him and how he would ever make it on his own in the “real world”.
I felt so sad and helpless. And very hopeless.
Throughout my son’s childhood, my parenting consisted of a lot of trial and error (lots of error!) as I tried to find things that would help him (and me) feel better and do better. As I discuss in more detail in my book, one day, I stumbled across some powerful, effective mindset and parenting strategies–strategies that not only helped me feel better (less stress and chaos and more calm), but they also helped me make much better parenting decisions and helped me dramatically improve my relationship with my son.
Once I started using these new techniques, everything changed for the better: how I felt, how others including my son responded to me, my relationship with my son…everything!
Due to my unique background—as a mom of a son with ADHD who also has a lot of education and professional experience under her belt (including a Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology, a Master’s Degree in Counseling, and more than 10 years’ experience working as a licensed school counselor in U.S. junior high schools)—I am able to help you from a unique perspective.
I understand what you’re going through and empathize with your frustration and hopelessness because I had a very long, bumpy parenting road myself.
I know that your deepest heart’s desire is that your teen becomes a happy, responsible, successful adult, but on some days, this seems like an impossible dream.
I also know this stuff isn’t easy to figure out on your own–it’s really hard to “see the forest for the trees” when you’re in the middle of it all; and it’s really hard and isolating when you don’t have someone in your corner to encourage you and get you back on track when you hit the inevitable bumps in the road.
Which is why I’m here now: to help you figure out the best ways to help your teen and to provide you with support as you put new strategies in place.
What I know most of all is this:
As they say, a picture is worth a thousand words. Here I am, beaming with pride at my son’s college graduation!