Although I am a Parenting Coach, consultant and school counselor with a lot of formal education and experience (including a Master’s Degree in Counseling and a decades’ experience working as a school counselor in middle schools) I can tell you this:
You know that saying, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger?” Well, it’s true because I’m still here, and I definitely feel stronger! And I want to show you how you can get there too!
I have two sons–but my older one (the one on the right-hand side of the picture) is the one who put me through the wringer during his school years. He had (still has) Inattentive ADHD and we spent much of his tween and teen years looking for a lost shoe (or coat or wallet or you name it) and arguing about bad grades. Back then, I remember thinking: “The kid can’t even remember what he went upstairs for–how in the hell will he ever be able to function as an adult without me reminding, prodding, helping, etc.?!”
By the time my son got to high school, I was at my wits’ end–it seemed like no matter what I tried, he continued to struggle at home and fail in school.
And so did he.
And to make matters worse, this ADHD-related stuff really took a toll on our relationship. (Frankly, our relationship sucked! It got to where neither of us wanted to even be around the other!)
I remember the daily feelings of frustration, guilt, anger, impatience, sadness–It was like I was stuck on an emotional roller coaster ride that I had no idea how to get off of!
Not only did all of this take a toll on our relationship, but it took a toll on ME…My son’s ADHD-driven behavior started to bring out the worst in me.
(And I’m sure others thought I wasn’t the most fun to be around either!)
I was doing the best I knew how to do, and it wasn’t working. I worried so much about him and how he would ever make it on his own in the “real world”.
I felt so sad and helpless. And very hopeless.
Throughout my son’s childhood, my parenting consisted of a lot of trial and error (lots of error!) as I tried to find things that would help him (and me) feel better and do better. As I discuss in more detail in my book, one day, I stumbled across some powerful, effective mindset and parenting strategies–strategies that not only helped me feel better (less stress and chaos and more calm), but they also helped me make much better parenting decisions and helped me dramatically improve my relationship with my son.
Once I started using these new techniques, everything changed for the better: how I felt, how others including my son responded to me, my relationship with my son…everything!
I’m here now as a Coach and Consultant to share what I learned on my own through trial and error as well as in my formal education and work experience.
I know what works and what doesn’t work.
I know that sometimes you “can’t see the forest for the trees” because you’re too close to it all and what you need is simply a second “set of eyes” to help you see what you might be missing.
I know how badly you need a sounding board so you don’t feel so alone. (Trust me, you are not alone!)
And I’m betting since you’re here that you would be open to learning some new, more effective parenting techniques–especially if you knew that they would actually help you help your teen better.
I said at the beginning that I am here because I want to provide you with the kind of help I wish I’d had when my son was a teen. And that’s true! (Oh how I wish I had a coach back then to bounce things off of and to help me learn what I ended up having to learn the hard(er) way!)
But another important reason I’m here for you is this: if helping you can save you from even one more minute/hour/day of stress, chaos, nagging, yelling, worrying yourself sick, pulling your hair out and/or crying yourself to sleep…and help you have a strong, loving relationship with your teen…then everything I went through will have been worth it!
I’m living proof that you CAN:
Finally get off that crazy roller coaster ride!
Be more calm and more happy!
Feel more confident and effective as a parent!
Enjoy a more calm, relaxing home environment and a much better relationship with your teen!